PERCEPTIONS PART II

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Actions or words, which speaks louder?  Which leaves a bigger lasting impression?

Well many say actions speak louder than words, but this may not be true, after all, if a man does good deeds all his life, they can get taken for granted, and one day he decides, naa sod this, no one ever says thank you, and then someone asks a favour and he tells them to do it themselves in a harsh tone, the other person will either think arse hole or whats up with him, wont ask him any more favours.  But either way it is a negative about the person.  Why should this be, maybe it was a bad day, maybe it has been building up for weeks, or months.  But for a long time the good that he has done is pushed aside for the one time he said no.

I know its not the best example, but I have seen it happen, and comments like, ooh now you see there true colours.  NO it's not there true colours, it's them saying any number of things, maybe Fuck off I'm not a door mat, or no I'm busy, or do your own work.  Who knows?  I don't.  But I do know you cant judge a person by this alone, if you judge a person by there deeds, look at all the deeds.  Not just the one.  Oh an before anyone says anything about people who break the law and commit murder or something, that is an extreme and fair enough should get prosecuted on available evidence. I am talking about perceptions, not law.

Words, words can be the map or the soul, you can tell a lot by the things they say, and just as much by what they don't say.
They can reduce you to tears both through beauty or utter nastiness. Hell verbal bullying has driven people to killing themselves, I almost did it, and even to this day I am not sure the kids knew how hurtful they were being.  The real question would be, if they did know, would they have stopped?

So both words and actions can be both good and bad, but which last longer, well I think words do.  This is because words sting long after the initial sentence has been spoken or written, where as a punch in the face, well it hurts, but you can move on, hell if I held grudges against all the gits who hit me at school I'd still be working at paying them back.  Yes I was bullied at school, both verbally and physically.  I got through it, maybe I am stronger for it, maybe I should not have to have gone through it in the first place.  But it happened, can't change it, so move on.

At the time it happened though, I couldn't move on, fighting physically was not possible either, so like so many other victims I just took it.  Why should people have to take it, I had done nothing wrong to offend these people, or maybe me being there was enough, who knows?  Life is strange, people say things happen for a reason, the only reason I see is they wanted to pick on someone, and choose me.  If that is the reason, well I am thankful, cause I would not wish it on anyone else.  Truth be known, I was probably not the only one they picked on, arse holes are not selective where they leave there shit, and if it is over someone else, in there eyes...TOUGH. 

I would like to say what goes around comes around, but seems a load of bollocks to me, most of the people that bullied me seem to be doing quite well, some have matured, and are nice people, some though are still total twats.  So I am glad I am not them.

So I guess my answer is both can leave a lasting point in a person, depends on who you are.